Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Monday, May 6, 2019

Go the Extra Mile!


I was listening to Business mentor, Darren Hardy, give an example of why it is wise to always go the extra mile with business. I think his example applies to just about any area of life.

Many will remember that in the Roman Empire there was a regulation that if a soldier needed help on the road, he could command any traveler in the name of Rome to carry his gear for a mile.

Probably people resented that regulation, because it made it even more evident that they were subservient to the Roman Conquerors, and interfered with their plans.

Along comes Jesus of Nazareth who taught that if a soldier commanded you to go with him one mile that you should offer to go with him an extra mile, hence our reference to “going the extra mile”.

Can you imagine what a soldier thought of a person eagerly and enthusiastically offer to go a second mile? I imagine the soldier thought to himself, “I will just see at the end of the required mile if he really means what he says. Is his word his bond or not? We will see just how enthusiastic he is at the end of the first mile.”

Darren Hardy went on to tell the story of an elderly lady who came into a large department store in Pittsburgh to get out of a torrential rain storm. She was passing time looking at a lot of things, going from one counter to another, but no one spoke to her. The clerks even appeared to shy away from her, probably because it didn’t seem like she would be a good customer, so why waste the time!

She finally came to the counter of a recently hired young clerk who smiled and pleasantly asked if he could help her with anything. She replied, “No, I am just waiting out the storm and then I will be on my way.”

The young man offered her a chair, spent some time talking with her, and when the storm was over, helped her on her way. She asked him for his card and she said goodbye to the kind young man.

Several months passed and the woman’s son sent a letter with a request to have that same young man sent to Scotland to receive a very large order. The manager said he would send a more experienced employee to deal with an order of that magnitude. The woman’s son replied that only that young clerk would be welcomed and so the young man was sent to Scotland for the order.
The woman’s son was Andrew Carnegie. The young clerk came back with an order amounting to thousands of dollars’ worth of furniture for Carnegie’s Castle in Scotland.

The young man actually became half owner of the store due to the sizable
order from Dale Carnegie. Without a thought of remuneration from the elderly lady, the young man had offered his un-requested help with a smile.

What would happen in our families, schools and society in general, if even a fraction of people would grab hold of the principle of giving first, and doing so with a smile and without any ulterior motive?
Just thinking!
Chuck Stilwell,
Stilwell’s Learning Center, LLC

Friday, July 13, 2018

3 Superstar Tips for Starting the School Year Off Right


Whether we like it or not, the new school year is quickly approaching. Before long, our worlds will become a flash of paper, pencils, and backpacks.  We'll be racing to the bus stop, zipping our kids to and from activities, and plowing through homework.

Life moves quickly during the school year. It's busy.  It doesn't slow down, and there's no rest for the weary.
So before we start this wild ride, it's worth mentioning that as families, we really should set the stage for school year success from day one.   And we can.
Here are three superstar tips for starting the school year off right. Three tips that will hopefully guide your family into good habits which will lead to strong students and happy parents.
1.  Find a place for everything.  From the time kids leave the house in the morning until the time they rest their tired little heads on their pillows, they need to know where every single shoe, lunchbox, backpack, and school paper belongs.  Find and clearly label "homes" for each item, and reinforce from the outset that each child is responsible for putting everything in its place. If, when kids come home, they place their coats, hats, and shoes in the same place and hang their backpacks on the very same hook and place their lunchboxes on the very same countertop, the likelihood of anything being lost lessens.  And goodness knows that not being able to locate one of these items on a school morning means chaos. Especially if you're running late (which we usually are).

2.  Form school-happy habits.  From day one, start a routine that is both conducive to an "early to bed and early to rise" life and manageable for your family.  
Consider:•    Packing backpacks and lunches the night before a school day.•    Setting clothes out in the evening for the next day.•    Having children get dressed for the day before they eat breakfast so that they're ready to roll as soon as they eat.•    Doing homework together, as a family, at the same time each day.•    Starting homework right after school or right after dinner so there's enough time to complete it.•    Looking at the next day's schedule while everyone's together at dinner or bedtime.•    Creating a "head to bed" time that will be reinforced every night by every family member. This will initiate the bedtime routine and move everyone to shower, get pj's on, read, and hit the sack.
3.  Communicate early and often.  And with every involved party: your kids, the teachers, administrators, specialists, friends, parents -- you name it. Talk to them. And be willing to listen to them as well.
Write each teacher a quick email early in the first month of school introducing yourself and sharing your excitement for the new year. Ask how you can help support him or her from home or in the classroom. If your schedule allows, find time to volunteer in the class as often as possible.
Connect with other parents. Talk to them about how they think the year is going, and make an effort to maintain a positive outlook.   Set up play dates for your child with his or her friends and, before or after these play dates, chat with parents.
Talk to your children each and every day. Keep in mind, talking to them is listening to them, too.  Ask questions but be willing to hear the answers.  
School is such an important time for children—and a great time for families to support each other. Let's make this school year a success from the beginning!



https://www.scholastic.com/parents/books-and-reading/raise-a-reader-blog/3-superstar-tips-starting-school-year-right.html

Saturday, June 16, 2018

Happy Father's Day!

Ancient Hebrew word pictures describe the father as the
strength of the home. I have observed over the years in my work and with my own family that strong, loving, and reliable fathers raise strong, loving, and reliable sons and daughters. Mothers nurture their children and are intuitively connected to them throughout their life. However, it is the father whose touch and direction bring worth to the individual.

As a child, my mother always looked forward to family prayer and Bible times at the end of the day, because afterwards her father would five each of his children a hug. That simple connection let her know that she was loved and important.

This Father's Day, if you are a dad, be the strength of your home to your family. If you are the son or daughter, find ways to let your father know you do not hold anything against him. If possible, reach out to him with a hug. Tell him at least one thing you admire about him. It could bring a change in both of your lives.

Monday, May 14, 2018

Standardized Testing - What we test and Why?


The following article reveals why tutoring math and reading after school and during the summer is so important. Teachers, parents and taxpayers need to take notice. One of the reasons Stilwell’s Learning Center has been so successful is that we involve each student in their learning.

What do standardized tests actually test? Why are they needed?

Some of your children have just finished end of the year testing to see how the child and schools have progressed this year. The question is, “What do the tests really measure?”

Veteran educator Marion Brady helps answer that question and its consequences for teaching and learning. Brady has written history and world culture textbooks (Prentice-Hall),  professional books, numerous  nationally distributed columns, and courses of study. His 2011 book, “What’s Worth Learning,” asks and answers this question: What knowledge is absolutely essential for every learner? His course of study for secondary-level students, called “Connections: Investigating Reality,” is free for downloading here. Brady’s website is www.marionbrady.com.

By Marion Brady (Article from washingtonpost.com)

A headline in the January 26, 2009, issue of Forbes magazine reads: “Bill Gates: It’s the Teacher, Stupid”

The article that follows says that on a conference call with journalists, “Gates pointed out that experience (as measured by years on the job) and master’s degrees (which carry great weight in teacher hiring) show no bearing on whether someone will be a great teacher or a mediocre one.”

Gates’ opinions are important. He’s done as much as anyone or more to shape current education policy in America, and his focus on teachers — the good ones as miracle workers, and the tenure-protected bad ones as the main cause of poor school performance — has pushed aside interest in and dialogue about other social and institutional factors affecting school performance. He’s spent millions trying to pinpoint what makes a teacher great. He’s reached no firm conclusion, but thinks the great ones are easily identified. They’re the ones who raise scores standardized tests — and to school reformers like Gates, test scores are infallible indicators of quality.

The truth is that teaching—trying to shape minds—is hard, complicated work. Claims that class size, school size, teacher education, and teacher experience make no difference in performance is sufficiently at odds with common sense to require an explanation.
Like most people, Gates believes that learning is a product of teaching. That assumption is the bedrock of traditional schooling. It’s taken for granted by newspaper and magazine editors, syndicated columnists, and talking heads on television. It shapes nearly all commercially produced teaching materials. It’s how schooling is portrayed in movies and on television. It’s why traditionally arranged classroom furniture is in rows facing front, why most teachers talk a lot, assign pages in textbooks, ask questions about what’s been said and read. It’s the conventional wisdom.

Teachers teach, learners learn, and standardized tests monitor how well the process is going. The tests measure a quantity—the amount of information taught, minus the amount not learned or learned and forgotten. Subtraction yields a single, precise number convenient for sorting and labeling kids, teachers, schools, school systems, states, nations.
Simple and straightforward. Right?

There’s a now-familiar ancient Chinese proverb which, loosely translated, says, “Tell me and I’ll forget. Show me and I’ll remember. Involve me and I’ll understand.”
That’s three very different approaches to teaching—telling, showing, and involving. The first two lend themselves to standardized testing. The third one—the only one that really works—doesn’t. It says that what needs to be evaluated are the outcomes of personal experience, and personal experience is very likely to be too individual, too idiosyncratic, too much a product of a teachable moment exploited or created by the teacher, for its outcome to be evaluated by machine-scored standardized test items.

Involved learners don’t just read about plants; they’re outside, identifying, examining, and classifying, the weeds and whatever else is growing around the school. Involved learners aren’t filling out worksheets about geometric principles; they’re determining the height of the school’s flagpole by measuring angles and lengths of shadows.

Teachers doing those kinds of things are usually older, better educated, and more experienced, but high-stakes testing’s single-minded focus on scores has reduced them to simply guessing what’s probably going to be on the test and hammering it to near death. Experiences that create understanding? When test scores can dictate what happens to you, your students, the school’s principal, and the school, understanding runs a distant second to filling in the right bubble on the answer sheet.

It took me about 15 years in the classroom—and a federally funded 1960s “think freshly” initiative—to accept that what mattered most wasn’t what I said but what kids did. When I made that radical switch, I began a search that continues, a search for experience-creating activities (a) so interesting, the teacher can leave the room and nobody notices, (b) so useful, the activity’s relevance is self-evident, (c) so complex, the smartest kid in the class is intellectually challenged, (d) so real-world, perceptions of who’s smartest constantly shift, (e) so theoretically sound, the systemically integrated nature of all knowledge is obvious, (f) so wide-ranging, the activities cover the core curriculum (and much more), (g) so varied, every critical thinking skill is exercised, (h) so scalable, concepts developed on a micro level adequately model macro phenomena, (j) so effective, when the activities themselves are forgotten, their benefits are fixed permanently in memory.

The raw material for creating a near-infinite number of activities that meet those nine criteria isn’t hard to find. It lies within the property boundaries of every school or randomly chosen slice of real life. Finding it is mostly a matter of looking at the too-familiar and the taken-for-granted until it becomes “strange enough” to see.

Modern school reform based on test scores as the main accountability measure — supported by the Business Roundtable; the U.S. Chamber of Commerce; the National Governors Association; the Gates, Broad and Walton Foundations; some big-city mayors, among others—have engineered an educational train wreck. They took over an institution struggling to replace the minimally productive 19th Century idea that learning is a product of teaching with the demonstrably better idea that learning is a product of the activities of learners. Then, instead of asking educators how they could help with the transition, they slammed the door in educators’ faces and wrote standards and tests that have locked the sterile 19th Century view of teaching even more rigidly in place.

For millions of kids, it’s too late to undo the damage they’ve done. But if parents and other concerned citizens make enough noise, the giant, tax-wasting, kid-abusing, craft-and-profession destroying, super-standardizing, multibillion dollar testing juggernaut that’s perpetuating a stupid idea of what it means to educate and be educated, can be stopped.
If that can be made to happen, teachers can pick up where they left off before they were rudely interrupted—trying to figure out how kids learn best.


Still, we will come away from this reform era having learned a couple of useful lessons:  One is that no machine can measure the quality of complex, emotion-filtered, experience-based learning. And the second: If you’re testing the wrong thing, there’s no reason to keep score.


Saturday, January 13, 2018

Strategies for the New Year....Continued

As we discussed creating goals and writing them down last week, I did the same activity in my own business and life. Below are My Goals and Plans for the year. 

What are your Goals and Plans? I would love to hear them in the comments below! 

Strategy #5: Next, I begin to put them into categories.
1.    Personal Mental Development
     1)   Read one book every week which challenges my intellect.
     2)   One lesson each day with AdVocab (a higher vocabulary learning program)
     3)   Keep a daily journal of the things for which I am most thankful.
     4)   Read Success Magazine, BNI podcasts and literature and other business helps.

2.    Spiritual Growth
     1)   Follow a plan to read through the Bible in one year.
     2)   Study a different book each month on spiritual subjects.
     3)   Teach from what I am learning in church or seminars.

3.    Physical Enhancement
     1)   Sleep at least 8 hours per night and take a 15 minute power nap after lunch.
     2)   Meet with a physical trainer every other month for evaluation and new tasks.
     3)   Daily walks of at least one mile.
     4)   Far-infrared Sauna 5 days per week.
     5)   Weekly and daily Cardio and strength-based exercises

4.    Family and Marriage Desires
     1)   Family Dinner one Sunday afternoon per month
     2)   A weekly date night with my wife
     3)   Find ways each month to bless our children and grandchildren.

5.    Business Plans and Goals
     1)   At least 30 students Attending Stilwell’s Learning Center each week.
     2)   At least 10 Distance Learners each month.
     3)   Stick to the prepared budget for 6 months and review.
     4)   Employ and train 2 part-time tutors and 1 part-time office manager.
     5)   Contract to Webmaster and Face book manager.
     6)   Develop a weekly plan to receive referrals from current clients, former clients, schools, churches, clubs, BNI, etc.
     7)   Take one visitor per month to BNI.
     8)   Interview on a Friday Community radio broadcast.
     9)   Consider 15 second ads on radio stations when budget allows.
     10) Speak to a club or other venue at least once per month.
     11) Develop website blogs to boost internet presence.

6.    Recreational/Vacation Plans
     1)   Train trip to California with wife and granddaughter.
     2)   50th wedding anniversary in Frisco Colorado in August.
     3)   Healing is Here Week at Charis Bible College, Woodland Park, Colorado.

7.    Civic Responsibilities
     1)   Research different community volunteering possibilities, such as city council meetings, Helping homeless children, Salvation Army events, BNI benefits, etc.
     2)   Tithe to Church and give offerings to orphanages in Mexico and U.S. and Africa.

These will become the nuts and bolts of my schedule and my everyday business and personal life framework for the New Year. Month to month, I might make changes, deletions or additions, but it will still be the basis for a tracking record for the year.